Today: 25 October 2014
 
 

  

Being single  


Whatever your status, God
is always closer than anyone
else could ever be

People are single for all manner of reasons. Some choose to be single, while others would do almost anything to find a partner.

This article is a reflection on singleness for Christians. It can’t provide easy answers to the gnawing pain that such an emotional issue might provoke within us, whether as a consequence of being part of a family-oriented church, or arising simply from the fact of being single.

Either way, God is deeply concerned for you, and interested in your emotional, as well as your physical and spiritual, well-being.

The starting point in understanding singleness is to look at the way that God made us. The book of Genesis tells us that God made us male and female and in his image. There is something at the heart of creation that longs to be fulfilled in a lifelong sexual relationship with someone of the other sex. In this relationship, our created being reflects the deep unity of the Creator. It is from this union of hearts and lives that God made life itself arise.

It is not, therefore, surprising to Christians that singleness is hard… but that does not mean it is bad, or wrong, or outside of God’s will for you. Jesus himself was single; so was Paul, probably. Many of the holiest people we can think of are or were single! A single person is just as much a beloved son or daughter of God. To be single is not to be half a person. The Bible itself gives good reasons for God wanting some people to be single. Paul says that he wishes all men were single, like him, so that they could devote themselves to serving Christ without the distraction of a family.

What does God call those who are single to do? There are three important things to bear in mind:

Firstly that God loves to answer prayer. If you are concerned about being single, bring this to God. Bring him all the pain, the worry, the desire that wells up within you. Ask him to guide you and provide for all your needs. Do be prepared for him to answer your prayers in surprising ways, though!

Secondly, it is important to offer him your singleness. He is a remarkable God, who can transform even the most painful situation and make it good. It often won’t feel like it, but looking back we will see that he has done the miraculous. Make the most of what you can do and be. Live life to the full and be who you are. When single you have a freedom that brings great opportunity, and sadness over what you don’t have must never rob you of what you do have .

Thirdly, enjoy your friends. All relationships are a reflection of God’s creation in us. Every friendship is different, and we should rejoice in them as gifts from God. There is nothing wrong with ‘looking for love’, but the Christian—whether single or married—should be one whose heart is schooled to love and be loved, for that is how God created us.


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Pray: Lord God, you understand the innermost feelings of my heart; you grieve and rejoice with me. Remind me always that I am the apple of your eye, regardless of whether I am single, married, widowed, separated or divorced. Whatever is your purpose for my life, draw me close to you. Amen.

Read the online article What's So Great about Being Single? (Plenty! Here's why)

Read the online article How To Be A Truly Christian Single

Visit the website ChristianSinglesToday.com

Visit the website Purposeful Singleness

Read the book God’s Call to the Single Adult by Michael P Cavanaugh

Read the book Promises from God for Single Women by T D Jakes

Read the book The Thrill of the Chaste: Finding Fulfillment While Keeping Your Clothes On by Dawn Eden

Read the book Is There Anything Wrong with Sex Before Marriage? by Nicky Gumbel

 


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